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What does it mean to be a congregation?

It means we care about one another.

Of course, we can pray at home. But we come together as a congregation to share in our life as Jews — to be part of the community of Israel, past, present, and future.

Once, the Gerer Rebbe asked one of his disciples, “How is Moshe Yaakov doing?”

The disciple didn’t know.

“What!” exclaimed the Rebbe. “You don’t know? You pray under the same roof, study the same texts, serve the same God, sing the same songs — and yet you dare tell me you don’t know whether Moshe Yaakov is well, whether he needs help, advice, or comfort?”

Here lies the essence of our way of life: each person must share in the life of another. No one should be left alone — in sorrow or in joy. (Source unknown.)

We hadn’t even blown the shofar on Yom Kippur before facing the first crisis of the new year. As the government shutdown enters its fifth week, many of our congregants are starting to feel its effects. While we’ve rejoiced at the return of hostages, uncertainty about what comes next in Israel weighs heavily on us. The Washington Commanders have lost most of their star players to injury, and life continues to deal each of us a hand we’re still learning to play.

So far, 5786 has had its share of ups and downs. What do we do? The academic answer might be complex, but I think the Gerer Rebbe’s wisdom offers something simple and powerful.

We check on each other. A quick text, an email, a phone call — even an old-fashioned letter. The cost is little more than a few moments and perhaps a postage stamp, yet knowing someone cares can lift a heavy heart. Don’t know what to say? Try this:

“Hey, I was just thinking about you and wanted to check in. Let me know how you’re doing when you get the chance.”

We also show up.

Come to Shabbat services, join a Brotherhood or Sisterhood event, BeaSTY, or Not Ready for Prime Timers gathering. Sign up to bowl this winter! Or just grab coffee with me if crowds aren’t your thing. Step out of your head — and into community.

Yes, TBS exists to provide opportunities to pray, to celebrate life cycle events, and to connect with a rabbi. But it also exists for something even deeper: to be there for one another, to serve as a Jewish hub of belonging and care. Have you made a new connection this year? If we don’t take care of one another, can we truly stand behind the values we’re so proud to proclaim?

Community isn’t a small circle that expands only when it’s convenient. It’s about surrounding one another with care and compassion — giving where we can and accepting help when we need it.

Reach beyond your comfort zone and your usual circle at temple. Share in each other’s lives, through both sorrow and joy.

That is what it means to be a congregation.